Sarah thought that knowing the solution to a problem was the same thing as solving it. “I know I need to be more tolerant and accepting of my husband,” she stated, “so I’ll just do that. I’ll be more patient and accepting of him.” But Sarah didn’t succeed. She would forget her resolution or, when…
Have you ever been in a group of people and noticed changes in your attitudes or perspective that seem inconsistent with the way you usually are when alone? Do you find yourself becoming more like the people around you, as if your consciousness has merged with theirs? This tendency to unconsciously adopt the prevailing viewpoint…
“Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on their environment and especially on their children than the unlived life of the parent.” Carl Jung Whereas a child’s physical birth is often measured in hours and minutes, its psychological birth is measured in years. Though the seed of individuality is present in infancy, the newborn’s ego is…
A woman who was feeling disconnected from her soul had the following dream: “I see a porpoise, but it’s on land instead of water. I am concerned because I know that unless it gets some water it will die. I find a container which, strangely, opens up into a large bag filled with water. I…
There’s a country song that talks about “Looking for love in all the wrong places, looking for love in too many faces.” The same lament could just as easily be applied to our relationship with God. Too often we look for God in all the wrong places. Why are we so quick to look outside…
A young woman who was addicted to drugs developed a paranoia about bugs. Although she had some reason to be wary of bugs—she once contracted Lyme disease from a tick and later experienced a scabies infestation in one of her apartments—her current fears were extreme and unfounded. For example, she was certain that bugs were…
My last article in this series (12/12/13) pointed out that a major psychological task of childhood is the development of a strong ego. A strong ego should not be confused with a “big ego,” egocentricity, willfulness, or arrogance. “Ego strength” is a psychological term that describes the resilience and structural integrity of the conscious mind/identity.…
“W.C. Fields once said, ‘Never give a sucker an even break.’ Most people hear that and think it’s just some conman credo, a self-serving ethic of opportunism. They believe you ought to go easy on the innocents and the naïve. Hold their finger to the fire, but don’t burn it. But after 70 years of…